Small Behavior Problems Parents Should Not Ignore

As a parent, it’s very tempting to let smaller, less important issues go unnoticed. To some extent, however, it's important to pick your battles. Why? Some behavioral problems can lead to worse issues in the future if they aren’t dealt with immediately. Here are five little behavioral issues that you may regret ignoring, along with what you can do to correct them.

Interrupting

If your child is eager to tell you something, he or she may ask you right in the middle of a task or conversation. It may not be much of a problem to stop to give your child the attention they’re looking for. But in doing so, they may feel even more entitled to your attention and develop a habit of interrupting you in the future.

In the event your child yells or tugs on your arm to get your attention, tell him (or her) that he won’t get what he wants by interrupting. Don’t give in to him until he waits patiently for you to finish.

Pretending Not to Hear You

If your child gets away with not doing what you tell him to do until after you’ve told him a few times, he’ll think that he's in charge of deciding when to do what you're asking. Reminding a child to do what you asked just teaches them that they can wait until they think you start to get serious.

Always make sure your child pays attention to you when you talk to him. Get him to respond to show that he is listening to you. If the behavior continues, you may need to impose a consequence to get him to see that not listening is not an option.

Playing Rough

Of course, if your child hits another child, this represents a situation that demands attention right away. But, many parents pay less attention to “less serious” forms of aggressive behavior, such as pinching and pushing. When this type of incident occurs, it’s still important to deal with it immediately. Don't wait.

Not Seeking Permission

It doesn't take long for children to start preparing snacks on their own, rather than asking for help getting them. However, giving them control of when they can eat or perform certain activities doesn’t help teach them to follow the rules.

It’s best to have an established set of rules for the household, instead of letting your child behave as he pleases. This gives him a constant set of rules to follow and adjust to, as opposed to teaching him to make the rules for himself.

Stretching the Truth

If your child over-exaggerates or lies about something that doesn’t matter, it may not seem like a big deal. But, lying easily becomes a habit that kids often turn to in order to get out of chores or trouble. If your child lies about something, make sure you let him know that it’s important to tell the truth. Tell him that lying hurts other people’s feelings and makes people leery of what they have to say. Kids will likely slow down on exaggerating if they realize that it is not as harmless as it seems.

These behaviors may be of little or no harm now. But, try to steer your child away from them all the same. If your kid often acts without permission, it’s important that you help him realize that this behavior is inappropriate or even dangerous. It’s better to deal with the issue now than to deal with the repercussions of a child acting impulsively in the future.

MANAGING ADD: 8 MUST-HAVE SKILLS

A lot of grown ups with ADD perceive themselves constantly weighed down with every day life. This means that they in general wake up feeling like they are behind the schedule on all the things they have to do, use up the entire day on high speed so as to get all those things completed, and yet still go to bed nearly all nights feeling like they never got anyplace. Or, they use up the entire day in a fog, continuously conscious of all the things on that to-do list, but never gathering together up the enthusiasm to engage in the tasks. This leaves them feeling disorganized, uncreative, discontented, lethargic, at fault ...and the list goes on.

Here are 8 important abilities for handling ADD.

1. Slow Down

ADDers appear to be for all time working on a hyper drive star...mentally, physically, or both. In my view, slowing down when you feel hurried, stressed out, weighed down, etc. is the first and most essential ability for handling ADD.

2. Put into Practice Superb Self-Care

ADDers have a tendency to put themselves at the end. Why is it so? How will you ever "get it together" if you do not set aside time and energy for yourself?

3. Know Your Own ADD

ADD has an effect on us all in diverse ways. You cannot efficiently handle ADD without being conscious of the particular manner in which it has an effect on you, and the particular manner in which your problems are set off.

4. Keenly Use Your Learning and Processing Methods

Categorizing the natural methods in which you are able to carry on concentrating and processing information and feelings will make your personal and professional lives much simpler.

5. Concentrate on Your Strengths

Everybody has strong points, expertise, aptitudes, and fervors. Increasing the time you use up on these good things will add to both your sense of worth and your contentment.

6. Think Optimistically

Process of pessimistic thinking can be overturned. Pessimistic thinking will hold you back. Optimistic thinking will boost you ahead.

7. Plan the Time to Plan...Everything

Planning does not all the time come effortlessly to ADDers. Developing tools and methods for planning will make more efficient the administration and time managing, but you have to take it one step ahead and plan the time to make use of them.

8. Take Challenges

This does not turn to speed racing or skydiving! It suggests to stepping out of your comfort region and doing things that may not be comfortable, like request for that increment, taking up that new pastime, or practicing that life long fervor. If you do not take the challenge, you will not get the return.

Warning: You’re Pushing People Away By Not Managing These 4 ADHD Interpersonal Quirks

By: Controlling ADHD- Lifestyle tweeks for ADHD relief

I have a love/hate relationship with parties. The music and the people are brain-scrambling loud, (at least when my friends control the sound system). All too often in my state of overwhelm bordering on panic, I sit alone in a corner, nursing my glass and thinking “what is going on upstairs?”

To break the silence, I sometimes get unintentionally silly. A level of silliness that can only truly come from someone with severe ADHD tendencies, both good and bad.

Being awkward isn’t fun. However, as I grew up, I came to find that being awkward is less about social savvy and more about understanding how ADHD tendencies emerge in the happy chaos of socially charged environments. Here are 4 that you may want to watch out for yourself:

1. Hyperfocusing on perceived criticism

Let’s say you downed a big pack of M&Ms in one go while watching TV with friends. The person you’re watching the game with suddenly breaks the tense silence after a big play with a comment about how much of a candy fiend you are.

“What’s he trying to imply?!?” you think to yourself frantically. “Do I need to retort – or play cool?” your mind begins to ruminate on the options.

People with ADHD tend to take any remark or comment directed at them way too seriously as a result of our hyperfocus on potential threats. We often mistakes innocent jokes for attacks.

According to HelpGuide.org, people with ADHD sometimes develop self-esteem as issues as adults and take comments, both good or bad, as overly negative criticism.

From now on, whenever someone throws a comment at you for something you said or did, pause to think about the likely intent before weighing anything else.

Chances are, it was innocent or playful, not hostile. And even if it was hostile, behavioral expert Marc Chernoff writes: “What people say and do to you is much more about them than you. People’s reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds and experiences.” So just remember that rudeness is about them, not you.

2. Having a temper-deficit fuse

If you REALLY felt offended by our example friend’s candy comment, chances are you jumped the gun and lashed out (this is especially true for kids). You may have even lashed out physically or walked out of the room – ADHD impulsiveness at work.

Short tempers are a sign of low emotional self-control, one of the most common social struggles for someone with ADHD. Mayo Clinic’s list of ADHD symptoms show that people with ADHD tend to be hot-tempered, have mood swings and a low tolerance for frustration, and blurt out the first things that comes to mind.

The good news is all of this can be dealt with with conscious effort. Managing your stress so you won’t be prone to emotional outbursts, seeing the bigger picture, looking at the situation from another person’s perspective, and being mindful of your actions are all ways we can consciously elect to “step out” of the situation and let the ADHD fires settle down.

Controlling ADHD-driven emotions can be challenging, no doubt, but a few extra seconds of cooldown make a gigantic difference in our ability to react with a clear head.

3. Self-Focus: It’s all about ADHD-ME

Let’s pretend you attacked your friend’s criticism. At this point cooling down is no longer an option.

But that’s not all. In your outburst, you may have hurt your friend in the process. And you don’t understand why he’s still mad at you a few days after the incident. After all, HE made fun of YOU. Right?

People with ADHD often have relationship problems with family and friends because empathy – seeing and feeling the point of view of others – doesn’t come as naturally to us. We find it difficult to see beyond our own selves because our mind is in a constant state of self-concern.

Of course, it’s not true that people with ADHD don’t care about others. So once again, you can press yourself to listen and communicate that extra bit in order to hear the other person’s thoughts.

According to Family Anatomy, ADHD kids who have learned to consider other people’s thoughts and feelings show great improvements in their empathic behavior. It just takes a little more from us to get there.

4. Social Rumination: “We’re fine again? Sure? Really Sure?”

Once you and your friend have patched things up, you may feel tempted to see how he “scored” you.

“We’re still pals, right? You’re not mad at me anymore… not even 10% mad?”

Us ADHD types tend to seek out validation of their behavior, relationship status, and everything else. What’s going on under the hood? We are seeking a coping mechanism for our mile-a-minute confusion with difficult events. So we do the logical thing, and ask away.

If you find yourself chasing others for reassurance, praise, or anything else… just catch yourself and stop. This is the easiest point in this list to fix, but only if you get good at catching your tendency to ask or seek external reassurance.

A little self talk and self counseling to remind yourself about the cons of validation seeking, will help make things easier to deal with.

Now that you know some ADHD social quirks, it’s time to act on them. You can improve the ways you (or your child) relates with others by acknowledging them and positively adjusting them in the moment. Over time it will become second nature, a part of your personality.

And remember – you can always seek help if you need it

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6 TIPS FOR SLOWING DOWN THE ADD BRAIN

6 TIPS FOR SLOWING DOWN THE ADD BRAIN

If you are a grown up person having ADD, then you may be familiar that at times, slowing down is a very difficult thing to do. There are a lot of jobs to get done and so little time to get them completed. So your mind starts working in a high speed, trying to achieve it all and more, or getting upset about the actuality that it may look as if it is not viable to get it all completed. As a result, you use up a lot of time constantly worrying, and very little time getting pleasure from life.

While slowing down is a complex ability to put up, it can be made.
Here are 6 established methods to slow down the adult ADD brain:

1. Put Your Work Down
Fix up your business hours and stand by them. Even though at times it is essential to work overtime, do not do it if not you just have to. You will work more competently during the day when the time you have to complete your job is fixed. And take a break on weekends – or at least 2 days a week. You ought to have it.

2. Arrange for a Night out with Others
Nothing is more enjoyable than having a night out with people you like. This may well be with colleagues, friends, family, or members of a group you are a part of. Have a good time.

3. Make a Weekly Obligation (Like Taking a Class or Involving Yourself in a Group)
Find a reason to go out of the house and out of the office each week. Attend a class, if possible to learn something you for all time wanted to know how to do. Make certain that you *pay* for the class beforehand so you will not be coaxed to miss it out.

4. Diary
Maintaining a diary compels you to stop, think over and act out. It aids you to deal with nervous tension and achieve clearness. Formulate the resolution to do it every day - even if it is merely for 10 minutes! Do not be bothered about sentence structure, syntax, punctuation, or flow since no one else ever has to see it.

5. Meditate
There are a lot of diverse methods of meditation, but I have a preference for mindfulness meditation. This is merely the action of being there in the present instant - whether you are working, walking, or washing the dishes. Make an effort to keep your mind in the instant, and do not tag on worrying or troublesome feelings when they come up. It is all right to start on little by little, with 5 minutes spent in mindful meditation daily, and after that building on your performance as you happen to be more at ease.

6. Switch off Your Computer 2 Hours before Bed
Computers are rather interesting, in particular for ADDers. Frequently at times, you will find yourself sitting at your computer at 3 o'clock in the morning completely occupied in exploring something totally arbitrary. You just cannot move away from the pc and go to bed, and that is for the reason that the computer stimulates your brain. Switch the pc off at least two hours prior to going to sleep so as to suitably relax, and slow down, at night.

Changes take time!

ADHD diagnoses can be a nightmare. You cannot change how your brain is. 
What you can do is find solutions but they're going to take time and work.

By: ADHD Expression

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